What To Do If Your Child Is Unhappy?
All parents want their children to be happy and healthy. Unfortunately, life doesn’t provide us with a manual and while we try our best, sometimes things don’t work out the way we’d like them to. If your child is unhappy and you are not sure what to do, this article is for you.
Where does happiness come from?
You may have already wondered why some children are happier than others. Why is it so easy for some to enjoy the good things in life and why is it so difficult for others? If your child is unhappy, it is very possible that you, as the parent, will react to this condition with fear and concern.
The good news is that happiness can be achieved. 50% of our happiness comes from our genes, 10% is influenced by our life and 40% represents our attitudes, that is, the thought patterns that we learn.
However, as parents, we can teach our children the right emotional and cognitive patterns so that they can enjoy life to the fullest. We can also try to improve their circumstances in general.
What can you do when your child is unhappy?
As parents, we want to offer our children the best possible childhood so that they feel safe and secure. We try to teach them how to enjoy life and find happiness in the little things in life.
However, at times we may have doubts about the well-being of our children. In these cases it is therefore important to first determine whether our child is unhappy or whether they are going through a difficult time.
Happy children look happy and active, they smile and share their joy with others. In addition, they also have lots of friends and enjoy building relationships with others.
Happy children are grateful and appreciate the good things in life and the kindness of other people. Your view of the world is positive. Children who are happy feel motivated to try something new, such as a hobby or a skill they enjoy. You are confident and independent.
How can you help your child feel better?
Love your child unconditionally
An essential part of being happy is feeling loved and trusting those you love. So love and accept your child for who they are and let them know that you love them. This way, your bond will become stronger and you will be better able to identify and help resolve mood swings in your child.
Set healthy boundaries
If you think rules or “saying no” can make your child unhappy, we can tell you that the exact opposite is true. Because children need clear boundaries.
Rules can be a kind of guide for our children. They show them what they can expect from life and what is expected of them. This can give them confidence and teach them how to deal with frustrations.
If your child is unhappy, work on his or her self-esteem
Self-esteem is one of the best lessons you can teach your children. Therefore, help them develop healthy self-esteem and make them feel capable and valuable.
Help them become independent, give them responsibility and let them solve their problems to a healthy extent on their own. The sense of achievement will help them create their own personality.
If your child is unhappy, encourage them to be positive
Teach your child to be positive, optimistic, kind, and grateful. Also, teach to appreciate and enjoy all the good things in life. Help your child prioritize and resolve his or her problems. The best way to do this is to lead by example, that is, you too should have a positive outlook on life.
